Every year, the radios, televisions and shops are filled with images of joyous family gatherings, sparkling decorations, love and laughter. The message is clear: Christmas is meant to be “the happiest time of the year.” But for many, the festive season brings complex emotions and can even be a time of struggle rather than celebration. If you find yourself feeling out of step with the Christmas cheer, know that you are not alone—and that's absolutely okay.

While some people look forward to the holidays, others can dread them for a variety of reasons. The pressure to feel, or appear to feel merry can amplify feelings of loneliness, grief, or anxiety. For some, Christmas may highlight the absence of loved ones—whether due to bereavement, distance, or family difficulties. Financial strain, increased social obligations, or unrealistic expectations of a “perfect” day can also be difficult to navigate. Even people who usually enjoy Christmas might find this year particularly tough due to their particular circumstances.

It is important to acknowledge that feeling low, anxious, or overwhelmed during the festive season is more common than you might think. The constant reminders to be happy can make it harder to admit when things don’t feel right. Allowing yourself to experience your true feelings—without judgement or guilt—is a vital step towards self-care. Emotions are not wrong or right; they are simply part of being human.

If you are struggling, please remember that you are not isolated in your experience. Many people find Christmas challenging. The festive season can bring to the surface issues we might keep at bay the rest of the year. Whether it’s sadness, stress, or a sense of disconnection, these feelings are shared by countless others—even if they’re not always spoken about openly.

Seeking support is a sign of strength, not weakness. Counselling offers a safe, confidential space to explore your feelings and experiences without fear of judgement. A qualified counsellor can help you understand your emotions, develop coping strategies, and find ways to manage the pressures that come with the festive season. Sometimes, just having someone listen and validate your feelings can make a world of difference.

If Christmas feels difficult this year, be gentle with yourself. There is no “right” way to feel during the holidays, and it’s okay to seek help when you need it. Whether you reach out to a friend, a support group, the Samaritans or a professional counsellor, remember that support is available. You don’t have to face challenging times alone. Taking the first step towards talking about how you feel can be the beginning of finding comfort and hope, not just at Christmas, but all year round.